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What happened to her? Did she get scared?

Known this girl since we were 4-5, spent most of our lives seperated... i messaged her back around December 17th last year, we started talking all the time long distance, I moved from a former life in WA to FL to try starting a life with her, she lives in GA so I had to go up there, I'm 22/M and she's 21/F, she lives at home and I moved back home temporarily to get up to her. Anyway we go for about 2 months just talking on the phone all night every night, then finally just a week ago today I go see her in person, which we havn't seen each other in 6 years. We're electrified by the sight of each other, immideatly embracing and kissing each other, I go in to meet her parents, they don't seem to keen on me. i take her back to a relatives house to meet mine, they love her to death. Anyway that night me, her, my cousin and his wife all go out on a double date night to taco bell, the movies then wall-mart (wal-mart was her idea), we had a great time. The following days I decide to stay a week longer with relatives while my parents go back to FL, I tell her and she's excited to death. Problem is I have no car during this time and my grandfather doesn't let anyone use his truck due to insurance. She has to rely on using her grandmothers jeep and we both live a good 20 miles apart or so. Anyway the next few days things go quiet all of a sudden, shes not calling or texting, I call her and ask what's going on, she has to cover for her sisters work shift, i say ok ill come see you, i go to her work and linger around there all night and we sit and talk, she introduces me to her friends. They leave and we're alone until customers come in, I made a few blunders here she didnt like, i walk behind the counter and untie her apron as a prank, which i find out later she didnt appreciate much, i only did it because she kept untying my shoes at the movies. Anyway I go home around 4AM, the next couple days i hear nothing back from her, she said she'd come by and pick me up and we could go do something the next night, nothing happens, i call and she says theres a lot of arguing about "education" between her and her parents, im like ok no biggy, the next day im i convince my grandpa to take us to eat dinner where she works, the whole time my cousins ragging on me not to smother her. i get pissed at him and storm out. She comes out and talks to me and i apologize for playing offensive music and running a couple customers off, she tells me im a little bit smothering and shes a very space needing person. I apologize again and she replies she still loves me and kisses me goodbye, this is the last time i'd see her and probably ever will... The last few days i hear nothing from her at all, i call the next night telling her i was gonna try walking to her house to see her, which she replies "not a good time, its like a war zone here the last few days", i say ok nevermind and turn back. The last night there my cousin told me what she told him in private, that she took ofence to some things i did, this is when i found out about it... i frantically call her and leave 2 messages on her cell phone profusley apologizing for it and asking her why didnt she tell me sooner. i call her one last time and she answers with "ive been meaning to talk to you about this, i feel we rushed into the relationship, both of us, its nothing you did wrong, im just not ready for something this intense yet, i want us to start off as friends and see where it goes from there, I really want to include you in my social circle and hang around with me and my friends, i still love you, i just need a few days space" That's technically a break up, i ask her, what happened to all our plans? she promised we could hang out valentines day, but loe and behold, nothing happened, i called and left her a message and text message reminding her about it subtly, no calls back since then, at this point im feeling petty let down, we had made big plans to save up and move into our own place together, all of a sudden she has to sign up for college and ignore me completly. I feel like it has something to do with her parents not liking the idea, i even suggested she come back to florida with me for a bit and she really liked that idea, but suddenly changed her mind entirley. Was it me? I get back home not hearing from her for almost a week now, her entire myspace page shes removed all mention and photos of me except one quote: "Forget me not lest i forget myself", im still on her top friends list, as well as yahoo and everywhere else, i see her online but im to afraid to message her for fear of intruding on her space. I don't want to in hopes she might come around and call me, but for some reason i doubt ill ever hear from her again, at the same time i get the feeling like shes trying to live life without me compltley like she doesnt want me in it at all. I don't get it, when we were dating she felt like we weren't rushing, now we are? if she really wants to remain friends as she say ive asked everyone about this whole thing, they all say the same "leave her alone shell come around", i feel in my heart like its not over between us, a few more years down the road maybe... i just want to hear from her again but dont think i will anytime soon, if i call her id be bugging her, she always told me how happy i made her. She has lots of trust issues from past relationships, one guy cheated on her twice and got another girl pregnant, another man let her move in only for sex and forced her to raise his kid alone, she also went through a bad divorce of her parents at 13, shes afraid to fall in love for fear of getting hurt. im afraid to go without love because i need someone to be affectionate towards me a lot. and shes very spacey person, i like to be smothered. why is she ignoring me completly? is it just a cool down from a relationship? I know she has a lot of trust issues wit hpast relationships, one serious relationship the guy cheated on her twice and got another girl pregnant, and another only let her move in with him for sex, that and her parents went through a real bad divorce when she was 13. I told her theres nothing to be afraid of, i get the feeling like she was scared, and i was too possesive of her and got terrified of losing her, and i did... hence why i left frantic messages, im a clingy type, borderline personality kind of. shes afraid of falling in love for fear of getting hurt, and im afraid to lose a love, i need to feel love. I want her to come around, if i leave her alone long ebough will she? I' tempted to move up there in the town next to hers so we can hang out sometimes if she wants, i cant stand living at home, shes going to college right now and i need to decide what i want to do, ive done no college thus far in my maybe she feels im not worth her time or effort, then why would she say she still loves me? Shes listed herself as single everywhere and not looking, ive done the same, just single though. my mind keps running circles thinking about all of it, maybe it was just to big a commitment for her right now, we were both immature, like high school kids, i want to call her and tell her i still love her and would love to hang around with her as just friends even, neither of us want to break the bond we have, but it feels like shes trying to break it, yet im still on her top friends lists, so she hasnt blocked me (yet). I've asked everyone for advice, and they've all told me the same thing, "leave her alone and she'll come around." The whole week was bad, my cousins wife got so mad at him she ran out on him, but now they're working things out, a week later she broke up with me and is taking me out of the picture it feels like. What to do? She must not care about me too much, if she missed me as much as i miss her, you'd think she'd call me or something... /shrug

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1. I say leave her alone awhile, give her some space..things will work out dont force it