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Suicide - Cry For Help?

My very good friend, we'll call her Jane, is contemplating suicide - or at least it seems as such... Jane has had a very hard life. She was molested by a family member as a child. Her mother abandoned her family when she was young. She discovered her father's body when she was only 16 after he had committed suicide at their kitchen table. She has very little family and also has a history of drug and alcohol abuse. Needless to say, there is a history of depression in her family as well. She's been on her own for a very long time and is attempting to support herself. She has in her past been a stripper and a porno actress. She gave up drugs, stripping, and porn (but still is an alcoholic). She went to school, got her degree, and is now having an early life crisis because she can't find a job. The fact that she's struggling like Hell to pay her bills is just the tip of the ice-berg. She's somewhat mentally unstable, horribly depressed, and divulged to me tonight that she's considering suicide. She has considered it before and had checked herself into a mental institution. At this institution, she was subjected to abuse and a whole battery of unhealthy experiences. She came out of the institution probably worse off, and since then will not trust any mental health care professionals. We live in a rural area where there is only one (horrible... I mean, just awful...) mental health care institution and she does not want to go back. She left me tonight with a very reliable friend who is staying the night with her, but I'm not sure what to do about the dilemma. Our friend cannot watch her forever and Jane seems to have put serious thought into this matter. She quoted songs she wanted played at her funeral and even noted how she planned to go about the suicide. On one hand, she was very drunk when telling me this. On the other hand, I'm sure she was serious when she mentioned she had really been thinking about it. This is a tough subject. If I called the hospital or authorities, they would take her to that horrible mental health hospital. She has no insurance and is very poor. She couldn't afford anything better than that awful place even if she was willing to go, and as a poor college student I don't have the money to support her either. Is this a lose-lose situation or are there alternatives here that I'm not thinking of? My friend really needs help, and I just don't know what to do for her anymore...

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1. Does your college have a counseling center? If yes, then take her there and have her talk to them. It should be free so you do not have to worry about the cost. There are also suicide prevention hotlines available, just google them. For now, just let her know you care and be there for her. Just listen to what she says.
2. Tie her up :P Can't kill herself now, can she????
3. Get Jane to a doctor and get some support for her ? Best Wishes. Mars Mission. Afterward perhaps get her to try the following ? http://www.moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome
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5. It's a cry for attention
6. What happened to being responsible. You don't just stumble into doing drugs, you actively participate and become a drug addict. Which then leads you to do all the things that destroy your future potential, like doing porn. This is "self induced" not imposed. This is a self made problem of which any help anyone attempts will be ignored because the solution is not hers. She has what is called plausible deniability. "Wasn't my solution therefore it didn't work" When she is ready to take responsibility for her life, and that also might be why she wants to "off" herself, she will make that call, clean up her act, reform the drug use, stop with the porn acting, figure out what she wants to do in life, resolve all the issues and there after be a human which everyone might find they would like to be around. As long as you pay her the attention she desires, she will milk it for all it is worth. She will drag you into it as well. Assuming you aren't a drug using porn star, run don't walk away until she gets her life together.