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Help! I'm 30 with no friends....why?

Hi, I'm a 30 year old, attractive, easy to get along with person. I recentlty got married in 2009, and I feel as though my friends don't like me anymore. I have been close with 2 other girls for about 10+ years. (one of them I have been friends with since kindergarten) I was a maid of honor in friend # 1's wedding, and a bridesmaid in the other's. Anyway, in 2008, one of them decided to get divorced. Of course I was a little disappointed, and told her I thought she should really think about her decison, but I let her know that I supported her in any way possible and that I was clearly on her side. I have to say that I was really hurt when began confiding in the other friend of ours more than me. I was totally kept in the dark during the whole process, where I didn't know ANYTHING!! While it hurt, I was respectful and gave her space, not calling her too much, or asking too many questions. So, these two have grown really really close during the last 3 years, distancing themselves from me totally. I got married in 2009, they were both in my wedding, one of them left my wedding early.......she was the maid of honor! (I was pissed) My bachellorette party was basically thrown without any effort, nothing like I have ever thrown for them. (they have money as they are both teachers) Now friend #2 is getting a divorce too, and same thing......I know NOTHING! I don't even know who these girls are datingnevermind anything else. I own an insurance agency and they have NEVER stepped foot in my office to get a quote! Honestly, I feel they do not like me, so I don't push my way into their little twosome/divorcee/teacher bond. What really made me confront them was last summer Lady Gaga was on tour, and they told me they had bought tickets with another group of girls, and were getting a hotel room, limo, dressing up to the 9's......going all out. I said, "really, thats nice I would have loved to go!" One of them mumbled that they didn't think I wanted to go. At first I wasn't too pissed because I figured they didn't ask me bc I am married now, but when I found out that other girls who were married were going, I flipped! We didnt talk for a few months after that, but now we sort of made up, but still I never talk to them, I know nothing about their lives and they know nothing about mine. It's like an empty shell with nothing inside! Why??? What is wrong with me??? What did I do wrong? I have been so down about my horrible social life, I reached out to some old friends I knew in highschool but have been rejected by them as well. I invited them to my 30th birthday party, and no one showed up! I let that go, rationalizing that maybe they don't feel comfortable coming bc its beeen a while. I went to dinner with them a few weeks later, and had a great time. Just yesterday, I saw pics on FB of one of their wedding showers, that I was not invited to! I guess I am really living in a dreamworld about friendships! What am I doing wrong? Please advise. Sorry so long!

Public Comments

1. ur a loner anxiety. get help
2. do you wear deodorant?
3. Holy shi* man, this is heavy! Dude you should really talk to your friends about the situation, if they really still want you and like you as a friend, they are going to hear you and make out! :) Its a hell of a situation but if you try to talk to them and explain them everything and whats hapening,(if you did or said something wrong) they can hear you and be how you used to be with them. Good Luck! :)
4. I would express to them how your feeling. Just ask for an honest answer from them. If they truly care then they will put an effort into the friendship. If not, your only 30. You have many years to make quality friends. Also don't go on FB too much. That could also be dragging you down.
5. I completely understand your feelings. I am very solitary and individualistic, but it can be extremely lonely and discouraging, especially when you feel the world is passing you without even a glance. I do know how hurtful it can be to be rejected by others. Modern day American sociality can be superficial and fleeting. Many focus on the quantity rather than the quality of friendships and associations, racing to amass as many connections as possible to improve their social standing or material possessions. It's very easy to feel inferior and different when the world judges your human worth based on your friends. Our potential to do or be anything we want is not based on the world's standards or perceptions of who we are or what we've done; our potential is unlimited. Our worth is infinite, regardless of how we or others see ourself. When I tried reaching out to people or reconnecting with old friends, I always felt rejected and like we had just gone our separate ways. It hurt. A LOT. I kept wondering what I was doing wrong and tried analyzing every detail about me so I would know what to "fix", when in reality there was nothing. Each night I would get on my knees and beg God for even just one friend, just one person who would love me for me and let me know the world hasn't forgotten me. Over time, I finally stopped asking God "Why?" and started focusing on everything I did have. My mind raced with images of people who were homeless, dying, betrayed, starving, impoverished, without family, rejected, hated, suffering from disease, unemployed, abandoned, blind, uneducated. I could not feel so sorry for myself when I had everything many people would give anything to have. My prayers were very different after that. I still asked God for a friend every night and morning, but after that, I forget about that worry and just trusted God would take care of me. I started volunteering and using my time to help those in need. When you lose yourself in the service of others, you will find yourself. It is by forgetting yourself you will find the greatest happiness. I guarantee you that if you serve others today, that tomorrow will be better.